"I used to walk into a room full of people and wonder if they would like me. Now I look around and wonder if I'm going to like them."
So, like, there are a TON of theories out there that contribute to why people become successful. I think it's so worth it to put some energy into researching and learning about these people. The information is endless (google is your best friend).
One of the most valuable things I've realized in my career is the importance of being confident. From the perspective of a music creator, it is an absolute necessity. You may disagree, but time and time again its proven to be true.
Confidence energy shows in the music. Being bold enough to go where no man has gone before requires uber confidence. When placed in a scenario where confidence is important (let's say if you were thrown into a studio session with a superstar), being shy and timid is just not an option. Not if you want to knock your performance out of the ballpark!
A great way to start is to practice being more decisive. Confident people don't ponder or wait around. They make decisions quickly, and commit to them fairly easily. They rarely change their minds because they know what they want. I think the key to becoming more decisive in your decisions is to simply know yourself and know what you want. It's hard to make decisions if you're confused about what you want in the first place! Get into the habit of setting some goals for yourself. Envision them in your mind and do what you can to achieve them. Let your goals become your roadmap for the future.
I used to be timid. VERY timid. I always was. I remember being at the height of my "timidness" in 9th grade. It took a lot of learning and experience to get to know myself and what I really wanted out of life. When I realized that, I was slowly on my way to becoming more confident in myself and my decision making. Over a decade later, confidence has become a habit. I'm not saying I'm perfect. I am human. I'm not always at 100% confidence level always all the time. It's not something you can master, but it is something you can work towards and incorporate in your everyday life.
Living a confident life yields results, which ultimately leads to happiness and self-love. These are the ultimate keys. Maybe even one of the "major keys". Look at Khaled. He embodies confidence.
"Life is not easy for any of us. But what of that? We must have perseverance and above all confidence in ourselves." - Marie Curie
"If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours." - Henry David Thoreau
"Let your body tell you you're powerful and deserving, and you become more present, enthusiastic and authentically yourself." - Amy Cuddy
"We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same." - Carlos Casteneda
"Fear defeats more people than any other one thing in the world." - Ralph Waldo Emerson
"Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love." - Lao Tzu
"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment." - Ralph Waldo Emerson
Love yourself. Love others. Everything else will fall into place. Every song you write, every beat you make, every collaboration you embark on, every person you meet, should be manifest from a place of passion, honesty and love. Start there, and I promise you will be on your way to feeling more confidence energy.
Join !llmind as he conducts a series of live workshops (kind of like his own TED Talk). The next one is in Philadelphia on Saturday, July 30th. Go HERE for details.